Some of the problem with the children is that the husband has abandoned the mother . The mother is working 2 jobs and the kids run wild because the father is no longer in the picture. Leaving the mother to deal with it all.
In Africa there was a herd of male teenage elephants wreaking havoc . What to do? The care takers put a bull elephan…
Some of the problem with the children is that the husband has abandoned the mother . The mother is working 2 jobs and the kids run wild because the father is no longer in the picture. Leaving the mother to deal with it all.
In Africa there was a herd of male teenage elephants wreaking havoc . What to do? The care takers put a bull elephant in charge of the young teens and guess what happened. The teens calmed down and started acting normal. Why ? Because they needed a father figure. Father’s are so important . Mother’s are important. But both need to be engaged in their children.
I agree, engaging with their children in a positive way is important, perhaps the most important part of raising children. I have seen children of single mothers grow up well and others do poorly in life. Money doesn't seem to matter much. To me the first 3 years (the tender years) seem to be the most important in moulding a child's character. Being there mentally and physically for your children seems to be key.
Please don't misunderstand what I wrote. Raising children is not usually easy but can be a pleasure for many parents. I don't pretend to have all the answers. I pass along my own observations, For example I have noted that some cultures do better at raising children. Middle eastern muslims on average seem to raise better children in terms of capability, respect and politeness.
I also had a neighbor one time who I encouraged to consider becoming a counseller for raising children as she had such a lovely family. She was a single mom for three years.
"Middle eastern muslims on average seem to raise better children in terms of capability, respect and politeness." Because in that culture children are "second class citizens" and often subjected to physical, sexual, and mental abuse, especially girls, but boys are also exploited. Beating children into submission can temporarily make them "behave" but ends up creating monsters who in turn become abusers of the next generation of children, or even Jihadis who take out their suppressed rage on innocent "Infidels".
You are 1000 % correct Melanie. I think a lot of coping that children learn is watching their parents work through issues. One parent is many time the good cop and the other the bad cop when making decisions and children learn how to deal with sometimes tough issues.
Some of the problem with the children is that the husband has abandoned the mother . The mother is working 2 jobs and the kids run wild because the father is no longer in the picture. Leaving the mother to deal with it all.
In Africa there was a herd of male teenage elephants wreaking havoc . What to do? The care takers put a bull elephant in charge of the young teens and guess what happened. The teens calmed down and started acting normal. Why ? Because they needed a father figure. Father’s are so important . Mother’s are important. But both need to be engaged in their children.
I agree, engaging with their children in a positive way is important, perhaps the most important part of raising children. I have seen children of single mothers grow up well and others do poorly in life. Money doesn't seem to matter much. To me the first 3 years (the tender years) seem to be the most important in moulding a child's character. Being there mentally and physically for your children seems to be key.
Please don't misunderstand what I wrote. Raising children is not usually easy but can be a pleasure for many parents. I don't pretend to have all the answers. I pass along my own observations, For example I have noted that some cultures do better at raising children. Middle eastern muslims on average seem to raise better children in terms of capability, respect and politeness.
I also had a neighbor one time who I encouraged to consider becoming a counseller for raising children as she had such a lovely family. She was a single mom for three years.
"Middle eastern muslims on average seem to raise better children in terms of capability, respect and politeness." Because in that culture children are "second class citizens" and often subjected to physical, sexual, and mental abuse, especially girls, but boys are also exploited. Beating children into submission can temporarily make them "behave" but ends up creating monsters who in turn become abusers of the next generation of children, or even Jihadis who take out their suppressed rage on innocent "Infidels".
I agree; fathers are important. Now, change the divorce laws and ensure fathers have equal custody rights.
You are 1000 % correct Melanie. I think a lot of coping that children learn is watching their parents work through issues. One parent is many time the good cop and the other the bad cop when making decisions and children learn how to deal with sometimes tough issues.