I was going to make a comment on the horrible effects that all of this psychological warfare has on children. Quickly; when I was a kid my mother always told me to beware of strangers people can be dangerous etc.. my wife was told if you are lost or need something open your mouth say something. To this day I tend to never ask for help by a stranger or even people I know. I like to live incognito. My wife always says why don’t you say something, or ask for help, or directions??? I swear it goes all the way back to childhood???
Well James, all women think that not asking for directions is a "man's" ego problem! For some, even asking for any kind of help can be a hit to self-esteem. Now me, I will take all the help one has to offer even if I did not ask for it. I get it all the time as my skinning little body with grey hair is struggling with a cart full of groceries, lifting cans of gas or diesel into my pick up or loading heavy horse feed into the pickup. Angels, all of them and that includes women who stop to help also!
You're not even 60 yet so you have a chance to outgrow your mom's warning, but beware of the shysters!
Don't go putting words in my mouth James! You do know that one of the most rewarding experiences is simply being ask to help or helping even when not asked to. It makes people feel good. I'm sure you felt good when helping others.
I do love helping people, and I’m not putting words in your mouth just making the point how influenced kids can be by people of authority that are in their life. One example is todays teachers and the agenda’s they push.
Hopeful some, perhaps many kids listen more to their parents then their teachers but the books they are allowing kids to read in school libraries is what ruins them for life.
May depend on how one is brought up. Brought up with can do, well find a way vs we need to be hyper clean, hyper cautious. Hyper on guard. Snow flakes?
Yes, that is where the 'learned' comes in. I just think that some are predisposed. Just as siblings are so different in many ways, part of their underlying psyche.
Are only certain people predisposed to "Learned Helplessness"?
I was going to make a comment on the horrible effects that all of this psychological warfare has on children. Quickly; when I was a kid my mother always told me to beware of strangers people can be dangerous etc.. my wife was told if you are lost or need something open your mouth say something. To this day I tend to never ask for help by a stranger or even people I know. I like to live incognito. My wife always says why don’t you say something, or ask for help, or directions??? I swear it goes all the way back to childhood???
Well James, all women think that not asking for directions is a "man's" ego problem! For some, even asking for any kind of help can be a hit to self-esteem. Now me, I will take all the help one has to offer even if I did not ask for it. I get it all the time as my skinning little body with grey hair is struggling with a cart full of groceries, lifting cans of gas or diesel into my pick up or loading heavy horse feed into the pickup. Angels, all of them and that includes women who stop to help also!
You're not even 60 yet so you have a chance to outgrow your mom's warning, but beware of the shysters!
See that it’s not ego it’s because I’m psychologically damaged!!
Don't go putting words in my mouth James! You do know that one of the most rewarding experiences is simply being ask to help or helping even when not asked to. It makes people feel good. I'm sure you felt good when helping others.
I do love helping people, and I’m not putting words in your mouth just making the point how influenced kids can be by people of authority that are in their life. One example is todays teachers and the agenda’s they push.
Hopeful some, perhaps many kids listen more to their parents then their teachers but the books they are allowing kids to read in school libraries is what ruins them for life.
Actually, have read that the major influencer of kids today is their peers. Which to my mind equivalent to a circle firing squad
Pretty sure that is true, especially in the age of social media.
May depend on how one is brought up. Brought up with can do, well find a way vs we need to be hyper clean, hyper cautious. Hyper on guard. Snow flakes?
Yes, that is where the 'learned' comes in. I just think that some are predisposed. Just as siblings are so different in many ways, part of their underlying psyche.
Good point.
I would guess so