Yes, laughter is good medicine too, but in my experience, halting abuse, especially without demeaning the other party, is also very uplifting. And putting an end to abuse is in some cases an absolute necessity. I hadn’t seen or in any way communicated with my stalker in several decades (since I was a tween and he was in elementary school…
Yes, laughter is good medicine too, but in my experience, halting abuse, especially without demeaning the other party, is also very uplifting. And putting an end to abuse is in some cases an absolute necessity. I hadn’t seen or in any way communicated with my stalker in several decades (since I was a tween and he was in elementary school), and yet all that time he was stalking me without leaving any clues. In the case of the colleague in my org, he seemed pretty hell-bent on “throwing his weight around” and making others miserable, and eventually I came into his sights. Most people I knew avoided him. It’s no joke to be confronted by someone whose thoughts are beyond what you can fathom. Yet just a few well-chosen, nonintuitive sentences makes the whole thing disappear! Eventually I became the head of the org, and (coincidentally?) he moved to another org six months before I took over…. That’s what I call really disappearing. 🙂. I don’t ever think about these incidents unless a situation like this comes up and the approach might be of help to someone else.
Yes, laughter is good medicine too, but in my experience, halting abuse, especially without demeaning the other party, is also very uplifting. And putting an end to abuse is in some cases an absolute necessity. I hadn’t seen or in any way communicated with my stalker in several decades (since I was a tween and he was in elementary school), and yet all that time he was stalking me without leaving any clues. In the case of the colleague in my org, he seemed pretty hell-bent on “throwing his weight around” and making others miserable, and eventually I came into his sights. Most people I knew avoided him. It’s no joke to be confronted by someone whose thoughts are beyond what you can fathom. Yet just a few well-chosen, nonintuitive sentences makes the whole thing disappear! Eventually I became the head of the org, and (coincidentally?) he moved to another org six months before I took over…. That’s what I call really disappearing. 🙂. I don’t ever think about these incidents unless a situation like this comes up and the approach might be of help to someone else.