Happy Mother’s Day to all!!! When I look at these protesting college students I can’t help but think that the people around them have taken on their day to day problems of life for far to long. There are people around us that seem to always put their problems square on our shoulders. If we live our lives to please others we will never fu…
Happy Mother’s Day to all!!! When I look at these protesting college students I can’t help but think that the people around them have taken on their day to day problems of life for far to long. There are people around us that seem to always put their problems square on our shoulders. If we live our lives to please others we will never fulfill our own lives. I know there’s a fine line here when wanting to help someone, but we are not responsible for other peoples happiness. We all want to be giving but we should never let people control us by always dumping their problems of life on us. Sometimes when we continually try to solve someone’s problems we are actually hurting them more than we’re helping them. Many of these people are controlling. They’re not interested in you, they’re interested in what you can do for them. A true friend understands that you can’t always meet all of their demands. Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves or our own families. You can’t keep everyone happy all the time. There’s a scripture that says they have made me a keeper of vineyards but my own vineyard I have not kept. We should never make others happy while neglecting our own happiness. Sometimes we need to give people back their problems and in doing so it allows them to grow and self reflect, at the same time it frees us. J.Goodrich
I did the midnight shift at a charitable counseling service for a while. Their dictate to us followed a psychiatrist theory that repeating the callers problems back to them ( as many times as needed would be helpful) Sometimes it may well.be. At least they finally conclude its up to them.
I like that advice Jean. Not to long ago, for some reason, people we knew would always show up at our house with their problems. Sometime at 3 in the morning. Maybe DD I right I should put a sign out front open 24 hours a day….
...or a pressure activated switch under your doormat that would play a recording, at high volume, of a pissed off Rottweiler barking and flingsting hisself at the door.
This is from a transcript of a Dennis Prager video on "Happiness":
A WOMAN CALLED UP, SHE CHANGED A LOT OF LIVES WITH THIS CALL. AND I WILL LEAVE THIS GIFT TO YOU YOU HAPPEN TO HAVE A LEAST HAPPY CHILD. SHE SAID DENNIS, I HAVE A 30-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER, 32-YEAR-OLD OR WHATEVER IT WAS. AND SHE SAID, SHE IS JUST MISERABLE. AND DO YOU KNOW WHAT DENNIS? ONE DAY I DECIDED TO FOLLOW. I DID NOT BREAK HER. I CAN'T FIX HER.
[APPLAUSE] AND I WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND THE WISDOM THAT IS OUT THERE ON THESE MATTERS. THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON ON EARTH WHO CAN DETERMINE HOW HAPPY YOU ARE. THAT IS YOU.
<<This transcript was compiled from uncorrected Closed Captioning.
Young adults in college perhaps are three types. Those whose parents don't want to lose their child's 'love' so anything goes; ones with parents of the same mind set, and those that only care to learn and get the heck out. Over time some of our youth replaced personal aspirations with fascist tendencies. I believe they were couched to do so while being 'educated'.
You are right James, let them reap the consequences and maintain your own happiness.
Happy Mother’s Day to all!!! When I look at these protesting college students I can’t help but think that the people around them have taken on their day to day problems of life for far to long. There are people around us that seem to always put their problems square on our shoulders. If we live our lives to please others we will never fulfill our own lives. I know there’s a fine line here when wanting to help someone, but we are not responsible for other peoples happiness. We all want to be giving but we should never let people control us by always dumping their problems of life on us. Sometimes when we continually try to solve someone’s problems we are actually hurting them more than we’re helping them. Many of these people are controlling. They’re not interested in you, they’re interested in what you can do for them. A true friend understands that you can’t always meet all of their demands. Sometimes we need to take care of ourselves or our own families. You can’t keep everyone happy all the time. There’s a scripture that says they have made me a keeper of vineyards but my own vineyard I have not kept. We should never make others happy while neglecting our own happiness. Sometimes we need to give people back their problems and in doing so it allows them to grow and self reflect, at the same time it frees us. J.Goodrich
I did the midnight shift at a charitable counseling service for a while. Their dictate to us followed a psychiatrist theory that repeating the callers problems back to them ( as many times as needed would be helpful) Sometimes it may well.be. At least they finally conclude its up to them.
I like that advice Jean. Not to long ago, for some reason, people we knew would always show up at our house with their problems. Sometime at 3 in the morning. Maybe DD I right I should put a sign out front open 24 hours a day….
...or a pressure activated switch under your doormat that would play a recording, at high volume, of a pissed off Rottweiler barking and flingsting hisself at the door.
This is from a transcript of a Dennis Prager video on "Happiness":
A WOMAN CALLED UP, SHE CHANGED A LOT OF LIVES WITH THIS CALL. AND I WILL LEAVE THIS GIFT TO YOU YOU HAPPEN TO HAVE A LEAST HAPPY CHILD. SHE SAID DENNIS, I HAVE A 30-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER, 32-YEAR-OLD OR WHATEVER IT WAS. AND SHE SAID, SHE IS JUST MISERABLE. AND DO YOU KNOW WHAT DENNIS? ONE DAY I DECIDED TO FOLLOW. I DID NOT BREAK HER. I CAN'T FIX HER.
[APPLAUSE] AND I WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND THE WISDOM THAT IS OUT THERE ON THESE MATTERS. THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON ON EARTH WHO CAN DETERMINE HOW HAPPY YOU ARE. THAT IS YOU.
<<This transcript was compiled from uncorrected Closed Captioning.
https://www.c-span.org/video/?420527-2/dennis-prager-happiness-goodness>>
Young adults in college perhaps are three types. Those whose parents don't want to lose their child's 'love' so anything goes; ones with parents of the same mind set, and those that only care to learn and get the heck out. Over time some of our youth replaced personal aspirations with fascist tendencies. I believe they were couched to do so while being 'educated'.
You are right James, let them reap the consequences and maintain your own happiness.
James, some of these people are MASTER MANIPULATORS!
They see 👀 our Christian ✝️ values as weaknesses for them to easily exploit.
They use it to shaming us and make us feel guilty for (their words) Not being Christian like!
You’re right Ana!! It’s OK at times to just say no.
Ana
You Got that right !
The difference between altruism and gullibility perhaps?
Tough Love!
Wow James, That is a mouthful of wisdom! You could hang your shingle out and make a few bucks!