“We cannot undo the harm done to children, neither by blaming nor by defending the parents, but perhaps we can help to prevent future damage if we do not have to deny the truth out of our need to defend ourselves or our parents. The truth is that the neuroses of today were not brought about by drive deprivation or drive conflicts but by …
“We cannot undo the harm done to children, neither by blaming nor by defending the parents, but perhaps we can help to prevent future damage if we do not have to deny the truth out of our need to defend ourselves or our parents. The truth is that the neuroses of today were not brought about by drive deprivation or drive conflicts but by severe narcissistic traumatizations (such as humiliation, hurt feelings, sexual abuse, and also by making light of childhood suffering), coupled with the necessity to repress them.
The less the public knows of the significance, the pathogenic effect, and the impact on society of these traumatizations, the more frequently they occur.
Only knowledge and not merely more spare time can help mothers [parents] to broaden their understanding of their child and to give him or her as much sympathetic support as possible.”
"Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society's Betrayal of the Child" by Alice Miller, Lloyd deMause, Hildegarde Hannum, Hunter Hannum
“We cannot undo the harm done to children, neither by blaming nor by defending the parents, but perhaps we can help to prevent future damage if we do not have to deny the truth out of our need to defend ourselves or our parents. The truth is that the neuroses of today were not brought about by drive deprivation or drive conflicts but by severe narcissistic traumatizations (such as humiliation, hurt feelings, sexual abuse, and also by making light of childhood suffering), coupled with the necessity to repress them.
The less the public knows of the significance, the pathogenic effect, and the impact on society of these traumatizations, the more frequently they occur.
Only knowledge and not merely more spare time can help mothers [parents] to broaden their understanding of their child and to give him or her as much sympathetic support as possible.”
"Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society's Betrayal of the Child" by Alice Miller, Lloyd deMause, Hildegarde Hannum, Hunter Hannum
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