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Is it disgusting ? Yes. Many states outlawed dismemberment abortion.

I became pro-life after what would have been the worst decision of my own life. My husband and I married in 1982. I was 21, he had just turned 24. We fell in love at first sight. He proposed two months later and we were married sixth months after our first date. We had no money, he had just embarked on his career, working twelve hour days, six days a week. During tax season, he worked a minimum of fourteen hours daily , often seven days weekly. I worked full time for low wages, but received increases with each review. Yet with that, at the time, we grossed 32k before taxes.

Six months married in a one bedroom condo during my yearly gyn checkup, My doctor discovered I was pregnant…. Even though I NEVER missed a pill, had no morning sickness, my usual scant cycle, commonly

didn’t bleed.

I was scheduled for a sonogram, startled to hear a very strong heartbeat. The PA suggested I was nine weeks along. I hadn’t gained and ounce. And I’m tiny. Weighed a whopping 102lbs. Same as I had since age 17. I wasn’t skinny, just slender and petite. She scheduled an ultrasound. My mom was with me and the ultrasound showed what looked to be a perfectly formed being swimming around like a fish. We welled up with emotion. Ready? She assessed the fetus to be 16 weeks! It was surreal. That afternoon , a Friday at 5:15, just before closing I received a call from one of the front desk assistants. Without any attempt to prepare me, she matter of factly relayed, “We reviewed your ultrasound and discovered a “ neural tube defect”. I asked what exactly did it mean?” Your baby has Spina Bifida. If your pregnancy progressed, you’ll likely miscarry . Should it go to term and the baby survives,

Your life, your husband’s and the baby’s will be miserable. The baby will need round the clock care, will never walk will be incontinent, develop organ damage, respiratory distress, require feeding” and on. “ It would be wise to immediately terminate, I’ve scheduled the procedure for Monday 9 am”Can you imagine? I told her I needed to consult with my family before making a drastic decision. She was so angry and annoyed.As though I was the monster. The weekend seemed an eternity. We were all crying, I couldn’t even swallow a spoonful of soup. I couldn’t do it, left a message. Mon morning I called a different radiology lab and scheduled another ultrasound. I wanted a second opinion.And got one. Not only was the baby perfectly formed, but my blood work correlated with 18 weeks!! Had my gyn exam not been concurrently timed, I wouldn’t have been aware until I began to show at 20 weeks. If I was single, without a support system , I wouldn’t be able to make the decision to have the baby. I would not have been mentally, financially , emotionally, physically equipped to cope. The pregnancy progress into a series of disastrous afflictions requiring access to specialists, hospital stays, infusions and three month relegated to bedrest. The delivery nearly killed me. The baby was 9.2lbs. I weighed 115lbs when she was delivered . 23 hours of labor and the OB-gyn became very alarmed when my blood pressure, already dangerously high, shot up higher AFTER delivery. Four more days in the hospital hooked up to God knows what.Nobody should be forced to bear a child . A woman/ young girl matters. Sane parameters? Absolutely. No right to determine bodily autonomy? No way.

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